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What Garden-Grown Flowers Teach Us About Starting a Marriage
There is a quiet but powerful sentence I hear more and more couples say:
“We want simple—and we are proud of that.”
Not because we are settling.
Not because we care less.
But because we are choosing wisely.
Weddings today carry so much expectation—Pinterest-perfect details, once-in-a-lifetime pressure, and the quiet belief that more money somehow equals more meaning. But standing in the garden season after season, watching flowers grow the way they were always meant to, I’ve come to believe something different.
Starting wisely leaves more room for what matters later.
Simplicity Is Not Scarcity
(In flowers—and in marriage.)
In the garden, simplicity isn’t a lack. It’s a quiet kind of wisdom.
The healthiest plants are rarely the fussiest ones. They flourish because they’re planted at the right time, given steady care, and then—this is key—left alone to do what they were made to do. When things get overly complicated, that’s usually when trouble sneaks in.
I see this same truth reflected in weddings—and in marriage.
A wedding doesn’t need to be extravagant to be deeply meaningful. Some of the most beautiful celebrations I’ve witnessed have been the smallest: a micro wedding, an intimate ceremony with the people who truly know the couple, flowers chosen with intention rather than impulse (or a late-night panic scroll).
These weddings feel lighter. Calmer. More present.
Beginning Without Financial Strain Is a Gift
Recently, I’ve come across research showing that couples who begin marriage with less financial strain from wedding planning often experience greater long-term stability.
And honestly—doesn’t that just make sense?
Your wedding day is the first chapter of Forever, not the grand finale. Starting that story without the lingering stress of debt gives you something invaluable: breathing room.
Less pressure.
More margin.
More freedom for the real, beautiful, sometimes messy life ahead.
This isn’t about rules or judgment. It’s about kindness—toward yourselves, and toward the future you’re growing together.
Choosing simplicity isn’t settling.
It’s choosing well.
Why This Matters to Me
One of my deepest priorities—both in my work and in my life—is seeing families grow strong enough to withstand the difficulties of real life.
Beauty matters.
Celebration matters.
Peace matters.
When couples feel permission to choose simplicity, they often show up on their wedding day more present, more grounded, and more joyful. The flowers don’t have to perform. They simply get to be beautiful.
The Truth About Wedding Flowers (Especially for Micro Weddings)
For most couples—unless independently wealthy, living on a trust fund, or holding very high-profile jobs—wedding flowers do not need to exceed what feels responsible and peaceful.
In my experience growing and designing garden-grown florals, an elegant, elevated floral experience can absolutely exist well under $5,000 when it’s designed with intention and flexibility.
This is especially true for:
Micro weddings
Intimate gatherings
Outdoor ceremonies
Couples who value meaning over scale
Simple does not mean bare. It means thoughtful.
What “Simple but Elevated” Can Look Like
For an intimate wedding, a thoughtfully chosen floral plan often includes:
Personal flowers for the wedding party
(a bridal bouquet, boutonniere, a few attendants)A small number of statement pieces designed to move throughout the day
(used at the ceremony, then repurposed for the reception or meadow-style seating)Ceremony flowers that serve multiple roles
(altar pieces that later welcome guests at the entrance)Buckets of Blooms that invite creativity
(used for bud vases, scattered arrangements, or designed with loved ones)
This approach allows flowers to flow through the day rather than remain fixed in one moment. It honors both beauty and stewardship.
Why Garden-Grown Flowers Pair So Well With Intimate Weddings
Garden-grown flowers naturally support this philosophy.
They are:
Seasonal, not forced
Designed around what’s thriving, not what’s trendy
Softer, more organic, and deeply personal
They don’t compete with the moment—they complement it.
For micro weddings especially, these flowers feel right at home. They reflect the quiet confidence of couples who know that intimacy, presence, and shared commitment matter far more than spectacle.
A Gentle Word to Parents and Loved Ones
If you’re a parent reading this—perhaps helping your child plan a wedding—know this:
Choosing simplicity is not a reflection of lesser love or celebration. Often, it’s a reflection of wisdom, unity, and shared values.
Supporting a couple in choosing what aligns with their future—not just their wedding day—is one of the greatest gifts you can give.
Choosing Simple—and Standing Proudly in It
If you’re planning a wedding and feeling the pull to do more, spend more, or stretch beyond what feels peaceful, let this be your permission to pause.
You are allowed to choose:
Less pressure
Fewer moving parts
A smaller guest list
Flowers that feel meaningful rather than overwhelming
You are allowed to say, with confidence:
“We want simple—and we are proud of that.”
Flowers should serve your marriage—not strain it. When chosen thoughtfully, they can still feel abundant, elegant, and deeply beautiful—without borrowing from tomorrow.
